You’re 30 and you’re still
a virgin. Man, you’re not a freak! MARTIN D’SOUZA
tells you why
You are all of 18 years and you still haven’t
taken a ‘dip’. ‘Man, that must be crazy’.
This is the oft-heard statement which ‘macho’ guys
seem to be saying to those who are yet to explore ‘virgin’
territory. Now whether the so-called ‘macho’ guys
have indeed gone ‘beyond’ is another matter altogether.
It gets even weirder if you happen to touch 30 and have still
not ‘ventured’. Guys who have ‘been there done
that’ think you are a freak, or for that matter they think
you have difficulty in getting it ‘up’. As for the
girls, how would they know, unless you have told them or they
have heard from the guys.
Either ways, it’s nice to see the expression on the faces
from the opposite sex when you tell them you haven’t yet
been to bed with a girl. Some find it cute while the others wonder
if you are telling the truth!
This is for all the guys out there who are still
holding onto their desires, waiting for the right girl to come
their way; for guys to whom sex is not so much about hitting the
sack with the first girl they meet. Nor is it leading a girl on
with dinner dates and movies with the ultimate aim of eating the
forbidden fruit. This if for the guys for whom dating is all about
clean fun and not an opportunity to lose their virginity. And
frankly, not all girls have ‘one’ thing in mind when
they are with guys. Girls, you see, are more interested in getting
emotionally attached before getting physically entangled. At least,
for most of them.
Who would not want a long-lasting relationship when compared with
a quick roll in the hay? Long lasting does not necessarily mean
getting married; it can also mean being a friend for life!
So how does one deal with the barbs that come your way when your
friends call you weird? Simple. You just be the way you have been
all these years. No one needs to know what you do after 8! Of
course, at times it’s frustrating meeting so many women
(especially if you are outgoing) and not doing what many think
is the done thing. But then, you want to bide your time and wait
for the right one to come your way while you meet all those who
come your way.
For many, sex may be the means to an end but
for a lot many, it doesn’t work that way. Sex is about enjoying
the union with the one you love; it’s not about making mistakes
and fighting your conscience all night long. Honestly, how many
guys out there can say that they are still friends with the girls
they have had sex with? Your guess is as good as mine!
Being macho is not all about how many women you have gone to bed
with. You see, it’s cool to be a virgin. So what if you
are 30. Life is not all about screwing around after all!